Zen and the Art of Pain Management (by CM from Indiana)
Every morning, I wake up, get some coffee, and sit down at the computer to try to find a way out of the hell I’m living on a daily basis. Some days the routine changes, with my college classes in between the coffee and the research, but it mostly goes the same. I never find anything new or exciting, but it doesn’t stop me from looking. The beginning of this story takes place about 5 years ago. It’s somewhat long, so get a cup of coffee. I’ll wait.
About 5 years ago, I started feeling really tired. My joints ached and my temper was short. I’d been participating in the roller derby for several months, and blew off the aches and pains as a side effect of that. One day at practice, I hit someone with a routine shoulder bump, and that was the beginning of a medical nightmare that has lasted for far longer than anyone could be reasonably expected to deal with. I went to the doctor a couple of days later when I still couldn’t use my arm. In the course of our conversation, I mentioned the issues that I was having with fatigue and aches in other places. He asked if the pain was consistent, and I told him that the most consistent thing about the pain was the inconsistency. Every day, something different hurt; one day it was my knees, the next it was my shoulders. Tomorrow, the pain might be in my hips or pelvis. He nodded in all the appropriate places, and listened carefully to what I told him. I had a great relationship with my doctor, which had led to my epilepsy diagnosis the year before. I made a point of mentioning odd things to my doctor, on the off chance that it could be related to either the epilepsy, or the medication I was taking for it. This time, Dr. Gray had nothing to say really, but noted it in my file in case it came up later.
A month or two later, things were worse – a lot worse. I had daily pain in my ankles, knees, hips, fingers, shoulders and neck. I was exhausted. Sleeping didn’t seem to do any good, and aspirin wasn’t touching the pain. My doctor referred me to a rheumatologist, and off I went. My job was in jeopardy from the days that I had missed to deal with not being able to move, and he advised FMLA to protect my job. I was on board with that, and worked with my company’s HR department to get the paperwork filed. Since I’d been at my job for five years, it was fairly easy to accomplish. Meanwhile, my condition slowly declined in the three months it took for the rheumy to get me in. I didn’t want to get out of bed in the morning, because it was less painful to just lie there and try not to breathe too deeply. My mood was taking a plunge with my inability to properly care for my family, and work was a nightmare. When I got in to see him, the rheumatologist took nine vials of blood, looked at my knees, and sent me home.
Our follow-up visit the next month showed nothing from the blood work – no lupus, no MS, nothing. He pronounced that I had hyper-mobile joints, and it was something that I would probably just have to learn to live with. We made plans to rule out things like Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome and fibromyalgia, but that would take another 6 months because of all the different medical professionals we would have to go through. Awesome. More waiting.
And then I lost my job.
While the FMLA was protecting me from losing my job due to illness, it also forced me to use all my vacation and personal time before it kicked in. So when I had to stay home with a very sick kid one day, I had no vacation time to cover it. The next day when I came in to work, I was handed my stuff, and told that I could get COBRA. So there I was with no job, and more importantly (at the time), no medical coverage.
In the following months, I was denied every form of help I tried. I was getting a small unemployment check, but Medicaid wouldn’t cover me, and private plans were ridiculously expensive. My pain and seizures were left unmedicated for the duration of my unemployment. Coming down from the seizure meds were the worst. In the #2 spot for “drugs it sucks to go cold turkey from” were my antidepressants. (I still get brain zaps from those, five years later.) I was still looking for work, and a few months later, I landed a job. I was told that my insurance would kick in after three months, and I was happy. But I was still sick.
The first day that I had a seizure at my new job, talk around the office started. I was released from that job after four months, because “I was not a good fit.” Just like that, the bottom fell out again. I had insurance for less than a month, which was just long enough to get back on my seizure medication, and make appointments with 3 different specialists. I haven’t worked since. I can’t function enough to hold down a full time job any more, and getting disability requires a documented history. I can’t get a history without insurance and access to health care.
Last year, a good friend told me about Obamacare and the ACA. When the day came for enrollment, I stayed up until 4am to get on to the website and enroll. I put in my application, and waited. We live on $800 a month, as a family of four. I thought that there was no way we would be denied. The response to my application was a set of directions on how to apply for Medicaid, which had already denied me. I applied again, and waited. It was January.
In April, I was sent a formal declination letter from the state of Indiana, citing our income as the problem. We made too much money: $800 a month, for two adults and two children. I contacted the health insurance marketplace people, and told them what had happened. I was informed that I fell into a “gap” of people who made too much (HAH!) for Medicaid, but not enough for the government subsidies being given out to purchase plans through the marketplace. There was nothing I could do, and nothing that they could do for me. Until changes were made to the Affordable Care Act for families like mine, I was right back to square one, with no job, no insurance, and an ever worsening illness that was STILL unidentified.
Several months ago, I leaned over to pick something up off of the floor. I put a hand on the desk to steady myself, and when I leaned over, my shoulder popped out of its socket. I also subluxated my jaw eating dinner one night. I slept wrong once and couldn’t use my left arm for almost 6 months. It healed itself in time, but I have a pretty large loss of mobility in that arm, and I’m working on building it up again. But it’s ok, because the pinched nerve in my C7 vertebra (old injury from the roller derby days) keeps me from partying too hard. I also have recurrent urinary tract infections that have landed me in the hospital.
Hospital bills when you’re poor are just another thing to add to the stack of stuff that will eventually come back to bite you in the rear, but it has to be done. The problem is that the ER and immediate care facilities to which I have access can’t give me ongoing treatment for them. They can give me antibiotics to treat the infection and send me home, but to find out why I keep getting them, or how to keep them from coming back, I need a GP, which I can’t have, because I have no insurance.
Currently, my eyesight is worsening at a frightening rate, but I can’t afford new glasses. Today my shoulder, both hips, and my right hand are a dull, aching extension of my consciousness. I’ve lost feeling on the skin just left of my spine near my shoulder. I have another UTI, and I’ve had to get up from writing four times now to use the bathroom. I’ll be going to immediate care again tomorrow for more antibiotics with a side of debt. As for the epilepsy, it’s been about a week since my last seizure. I can usually get to the bed before I fall over, but sometimes I just sit where I am and wait for it to pass. I don’t take aspirin. It doesn’t do enough to make it worthwhile, and it would just wreck my stomach worse than it already is.
The worst of all though, is that I recently found out that a medical procedure I had done before I got married is now causing a bit of controversy. A permanent birth control has been popping up in the news a lot lately, because it is migrating from where it should be (in patient’s fallopian tubes) to places that it has no business (bowels, abdominal cavities, and through the walls of the uterus). Almost a thousand women on one online community have posted their stories of hysterectomies and punctured tubes. It has also come up that the device is made of nickel. I just so happen to be allergic to nickel. It was never disclosed at the time that there was any nickel in it at all, or I would not have gotten it. So here I sit wondering if the things are even in my tubes any more, or if they might have migrated, or if they are what is causing all my problems in the first place via the allergy. Not knowing what’s going on is worse than knowing what’s up, and dealing with it as best you can.
There are some days that I am fully functional, not in pain, and my brain is secure with its place in the cosmic order. Those days happen about one out of every seven. The other six days are a mish-mash of subluxated joints, brain malfunctions, falling down, and sleeping for 14 hours at a time. I am in constant pain. Pain management for me consists of just trying to sit still so that it doesn’t hurt to move. Heating pads and blankets help. I’m constantly nauseous for whatever reason, and try to stick to one light meal a day. On the worst days, I smoke a little marijuana to help with the nausea and the pain. It’s all I have that helps. I recently started taking supplements, and it feels like they might be helping some of the symptoms. I take Omega 3s and fish oil for my joints, St. John’s Wort for my depression, and calcium to help absorb the Vitamin D that I also take. At least I can get up and do the dishes, and that’s a pretty big improvement from last year.
I’m in my third and final year of school. This time next year, I’ll have an associate degree to add to my resume. The pain and fatigue are a very real and present part of my life, along with some new and exciting maladies, but I’ve mostly adapted. I know how far I can push myself, and when to stop (usually). I rest most of the time, and have bursts of activity between rests. I still feel useless, but I know that I can ask for help when I need it, and about half of those times, I’ll actually get help. I have almost $10,000 in medical bills from the last two visits to the ER and immediate care that will eventually get taken care of somehow, although I might be paying the hospital $10 a month for the rest of my natural life to do it. I have an appeal in with the Obamacare people, and if that comes through, there is a slight chance that they will help cover my bills from the last few months. I’ve already been told that it’s a very slim chance that I will win the appeal. I can’t get my hopes up. The field in which I am getting a degree is a good one for working at home, and I’m hoping to land something that I can telecommute at least half of my work time.
Most days it really seems hopeless, but I take some more St. John’s Wort, and try to see the bright side of it. Until then, I have a heating pad and a lot of tenacity.
About the Author:
CM lives in Indiana with her husband and two children, and a multitude of animals. She has a background in technical support, and is working on a degree in Computer Information Technology.